There lives within us both the part that desires to lead and the part that desires to be led
Some translate those desires into the slave and the master role
While there are those that choose a side to play in there are also those that choose to stand in the middle
They call themselves the switchers
I find nothing wrong with this choice
This game is more complex than it seems and sometimes there is the need within to search for the answer you could not find while playing the other side
At first this option allows you to explore the best role that suits you and gives you the chance to see what it feels to be on the other end of the rope
As you grow older and more experienced you will find yourself directed to the side that best suits your needs
Nevertheless there is an implicit rule to this game
Once you start playing it with someone you should stick to the role you selected
There is nothing worse than having someone proclaim himself to be your Master and then in the middle of a session finding Him handing you the cuffs and telling you to lock him because it is his turn
The same happens to a slave that wishes to overpower his Master and that does not recognize Him in his part
In both cases presented there is a big disrespect to the one you are with
To build expectations only to find them destroyed by someone who doesn't understand what it truly means to play it
Rules should be set before playing the game and this is the first rule to set
Who will play what role
A serious player will most probably not accept someone who just wants to joke around
As a piece of warning, you should know that serious masters will never give you a chance for you to sub them
In some cases you may be offered either a quick exit or a very destructive and painful experience where you will be shown your place
Regarding my personal choice, I decided long ago to play exclusively on the master role
It is the part that better suits me and the one where my abilities can better be put to use
Being a master or a slave is not a matter of strength or lack of it
It is a matter of commitment to the choice made and a desire to be the best at what you do
Being a switch means that you will have to have the double of the strength as you will have to disconnect yourself from the part you will not play
That is more easily achieved if you play a specific part with someone
Whatever you choose to play the important thing is that you do it and you play as well as you can
The more you play it the better you will be at it
If you like playing both roles you are free to do so
But set how this will be played
It is the only way you will find enjoyment in this game
