The friendship system - Success and failure of online trust

Many slaves have asked me as to why if I claim to have such a long number of slaves that have served me in the past, why my friend list on recon is so small



That has some explainable reasons easy to grap



The first and more basic is that adding friends can only be done from premium membership


As very few ever took the initiative to add me in the past, there was not that much to show


I have premium membership since December 2012



The second is that profiles are made and destroyed too quickly




Some time ago I made a small exercise and selected from my contact list a few spaced nicks from previous contacts I had made



From that list, less than 15% were still in existence


The third reason is that not every slave that I have trained in the past wants to be known to have been under my service

In fact many are not even able to be associated with anyone to begin with


That happens too much in countries that do not have a gay open community, being Portugal one in that list unfortunately


As a keeper of secrets, I have no interest in the exposure that comes from that



Nevertheless I understand that there has to be a balance between secrecy and exposure, specially in terms of reference points for future contacts




Dating services are made popular by providing an anonymous way of connecting people without having to expose yourself and be seen, touched and evaluated




Photos can be retouched or just be internet pictures that you like, profile data can be faked or "enhanced" to meet your made up ideas about yourself and fantasies can be written down without any physical support to the real you and what you are truly in search of




To help you in that area the friend list on your profile (that I call in a jokingly way as the friendship system) could be a good help



If you were to add every person that you have known personally in the past and that could grade the realness of the profile and the ideas on that he stands for (being in terms of recon if he is a good fucker, fister, fistee, master, slave, dog or whatever they one day invent) it would be nice
 


Some sites use that concept already and it seems to work out


Nevertheless in a virtual world friends can just be people that share the same ideas or that have something that you like and you may never have seen in real life


Just because you have a nice text and/or pictures you may have 200 friends and have met none



As it is now, the friendship system has deep flaws in terms of the evaluation of a truthful identity of a profile



Each user is free to use and abuse it according to its own views about its purpose



Virtual does not connect with the real and it does not provide any meaningful fulfillment


There are too many fake profiles in any service you may use



Trust is something that has to be earned


Eye to eye


Flesh against flesh



Trust your own judgement about those that you are in contact with


The choice of whom you will meet is yours in the end



Nevertheless if you know me in person and wish to add me to your friend list in recon you are free to do so and to do it as well to all of those that you know



The friendship system is better than nothing, but a mere drop in an ocean


Never enough to really fulfill your thirst

Faulty design pattern

As time goes by a pattern continues to emerge among those that come to contact me


This pattern comes in the form of an invitation

A nice face, a good body, promises of commitment and evolution

Words are exchanged and interest is risen

Then contact is lost

Profile erased

Only to appear again and again



This is a curious pattern

But a foolish one



Nothing good is achieved in this path

Building a profile to expose yourself demands time

Making the connections with those that may suit you demands more time and more effort

And the cycle continues


You may think that because there are a large amount of profiles and people that offer their services that may suit your needs that you will find among them one that fulfills all your desires

You will find that there are a finite amount of people that you may contact that fit your needs

You may try it with a premium account and make the search criteria to your exact specifications

From those remove all that are too far away for you to reach

Then remove those that you have already contacted and found to be imperfect in your eyes

Your world will become smaller and smaller



You may think that anonymity will protect you so that you can try again and again until you find what you are looking for

But you are mistaken


This pattern is recognizable

Age, location, photos, ideas, words within words, contacts

They will in the end give you away



Time goes by quickly

Each time you destroy what you made time is lost

Each time the pattern is repeated it will be more easily recognized

And as a disease you will be put somewhere where you will make no harm

A fake



At each new try more doors are closed

Until there are no more doors to open or no more strength to open another door



What is true survives the passing of time


Lies and deceits are rarely written in history books

Those that do will never be seen with good eyes however good the intentions might have been


My advice to you that live in this pattern

Set your goals smaller but achievable


Don't ask for perfection

Be perfect


Forge yourself into what you want to be or surrender yourself to those that can take you to your full potential


But try

For real



And don't waste my time