A blog dedicated to show different views surrounding the BDSM life, written by a Master and directed towards both slaves and masters.
Saturday, January 5, 2013
The s&M Relationship
This is probably the dream of every slave
There isn't a set of rules in terms of what happens and how it will work. It is up to the Master & slave to define how this will function
The relationship exists when there is a connection that is maintained between the slave and the Master for a longer period than a couple of weeks
If there are two distinct categories than can be mixed
The outdoor slave:
- Set for regular meetings, free to have a personal life but bound by an external element to maintain the connection
Usually a collar, chastity device, blackmail, etc
The indoor slave:
- A resident of the house of the Master, and usually goes around being a toy and/or a servant for Him
As in any relationship, it takes two to maintain it
For those considering the possibility of offering/wanting an indoor slave, there are things you must consider
- Having a permanent slave demands time, dedication and resources as you will have another mouth to feed, even if just scraps
Besides that you also have to know that the longer you have a slave, the less are his abilities to rejoin the "normal" world
Another aspect to consider is that if you have the slave in your house how will you present the slave to your visitors, specially non s&M friends and family
Beyond all this if you want to maintain him, there are health aspects that will be required even if all goes well
- Being a permanent slave means that you subject yourself to your Master desires
There is no turning back
As you lose yourself in His hands, your grasp of reality changes
Nothing you did will seem real and it may not seem real again when you return
At the same there are questions regarding your "normal" life that you will have to tend to from time to time such as personal events (family, bank, health checks) among other things
This is not something to take lightly either way
You have to be sure you REALLY want to be/to have a slave
Another aspect to consider is how you will be able to maintain the part of slave/Master for a long period of time
As time progresses there is the tendency to forget the parts being played and the s&M slowly dissolves into just being a relationship where there is occasional hard play
As such, for the relationship to be maintained in the original context, a set of rules must be maintained, properly formalized in the form of the Contract stipulating the roles and the conditions for the relationship to happen and the acceptance of both parties
All aspects should be considered so take your time to set things right before making it happen
Remember that although you will be Master & slave, you are both human
There are flaws in everyone, some easy to fix and other not so easy
And both may discover things that you don't like
The s&M relationship offers nevertheless a chance for unbound discovery and surrender
Where you will be in contact with your most basic self exposed to the other part, him being the Master or the slave
As layers are peeled you will find your true role
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